Things that happen

- you have a plan
- she goes along for a bit thinking she can convince you to change your mind
- she tries hard
- you try harder, you convince her to an extent.
- But what she says and how she says about her plans have an effect on you
- you think you're selfish ignoring her side
- you start wondering about your idealism, your prev. bad decisions and how the other usually makes sense
- you could tell the other - listen this thing is here. But she could flip out
- you could keep quiet but that's not being honest is it?
- you tell the other
- the other flips out cuz she just used to your plan in her head
- you are called a flip flopper
- you make the other seem unwanted, uncared and worthless
- you have to come to terms with all this new plan where you are alone
- you are the loser.
- and the other is tired from this shit.

What do the normal folk say - these things happen?